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-Lanique 

Men are simple. Throughout the generations men have continually asked for the same things. Yet, society rarely listens, because their requests are just too simple. 

This post will tell women and men alike, what men really want. Several studies of men have been surveyed throughought the years, and mostly all agree on three things that men need in their romantic, familial or social relationships: Respect, Care and Mystery. 

 Respect is often misunderstood as something to be earned or given first, before it can be taken. Scratch out what you think you know about respect, especially as it applies to men. Respect is simple. Respect is making an effort to understand a person, appreciate their unique characteristics, personality traits or talents, and giving them the space to be themselves. That is it! If you give a man respect, you will be fulfilling his deepest desire. He longs to be celebrated for his work, validated for his accomplishments and revered for his effort. Give it to him, because he deserves it. 

  Men have feelings too! They are human and not all that different from women. Although some men will never verbally tell you what they need emotionally, they will scream it with their actions and behaviors. When men are sick, they want someone to take care of them. When men are feeling lonely, they want someone to be with them. When they have had a hard day, they want someone to listen to them. When they are confused they seek out counseling. Men cry. Men hurt. Men feel betrayed. Men’s hearts even get broken! Amazing to know isn’t it!

Unfortunately, society has not required nor allowed men to express their emotions as much as women. Therefore, when it comes to caring for a man, some women and men alike are completely lost! My advice: Care for them the way you would yourself or the person you love the most. Men will feel it and appreciate you more than you will ever know. 

 Men want mystery. They want inspiration and aspiration. They want to work towards a goal and accomplish it. If you truly understand this principle you will begin to start treating the men in your life differently. Instead of wanting to simply have a conversation, you will have a conversation with a goal in mind. There will be something to achieve in the conversation, and a reward for achieving it. Men understand mystery as a challenge, and every man wants to be challenged!

Women, if you are in a romantic relationship, give him a challenge! Don’t give him sex whenever he wants it, don’t tell him everything about you in the first three dates, and most importantly, do not allow him to perceive that you are “easy.” Men want to discover things about you, because it validates their effort in chasing you and it validates them.

For the male or woman in a social or familial context with other males, do not bore him with meaningless talk. Do not discuss your emotions if you are still trying to figure them out. Do not invite him to an event without a purpose, or challenge to accomplish. Do not force him to give his opinion on something if you are not willing to listen to it and truly take his advice.      

Mostly, respect him enough to appeal to his need for mystery and discovery. Allow him to talk about his work projects, the lastest technological gadget he just bought, or his new car. He is talking about his accomplishments! Listen and give subtle hints telling him he can achieve more! If he bought a certain car, validate him, and then tell him he is talented enough to buy his dream car. If he is proud of finishing a certain project, validate him and tell him how you think he can complete an even more difficult task. Without knowing it, you are inspiring him, and causing him to view you from a different perspective. He will think, “How much does she really believe in me? What is her or his aim for telling me I can do more?” The mysterious plot has been woven! Relax and watch him unfold.

Men. They are human, with real emotions, wants and needs. Just like every other human being they need to feel respected, cared for and inspired. Give them a challenge, be mysterious in your approach, and you will definitely get and keep a man’s attention. 

As always, I hope this post helps! Enjoy!

-Lanique 

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            Let Love Abide! Just be sensitive to others about your PDA as well      

            folks! Respect yourselves and others will respect you. Thanks

             folks!

             -Lanique 

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